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Kita’s Gentle Message: I want to; I have to (Saturday, July 29, 2017)

“Never have two small words held such power for you. “Want to” implies desire, a choosing to do of your own free will. “Have to” implies coercion, a forcing to do because of someone else’s free will. It boils down to decision making.  What kind of decisions are you making?  Are they based on others’ wishes, demands, expectations, and orders? Or are your decisions based on wishes and expectations that you make of yourself? Next time when you are deciding – whether on…

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Kita’s Gentle Message: Leaving a Footprint (Saturday, July 22, 2017)

“Thoughts come and go.  Our mind processes thousands of them daily with many zipping by without our conscious attention.  Once in a while, one lodges itself within our waking realm and chooses to stay a while.  Some are wonderful; others are nasty.  Recently, a thought settled within me that gives me unexpected peace – the kind of thought that is long lasting, substantial and comforting. Luckily for me, this one belongs in the “wonderful” category.  I’ve realized…

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Kita’s Gentle Message: Bend It Like Beckham (Saturday, July 15, 2017)

“Though the movie “Bend It Like Beckham” deals with a young Indian girl whose traditional parents do not want her playing soccer, when the title popped in my head, I was thinking more along the lines of bending into changing circumstances especially innocent and innocuous ones – an unexpected request to help a neighbour, waiting longer for an appointment, doubling back because you’ve forgotten the milk, a sold-out movie you’ve been wanting to see, the stain in the…

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Kita’s Gentle Message: Ripe for an Identity Crisis (Saturday, July 8, 2017)

“Those of you who have studied long and hard at your career know a lot of things that other people don’t. Whether an expert in biology or finances, social media or kinesiology, your information is valued and to a certain extent what you know is who you are. Yes, your work defines you – in many cases admirably. However, be careful to ensure that others see the other parts of you, the ones that you hold close to your chest or even the ones that are hidden, especially…

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Kita’s Gentle Message: Not Everything has to Stick (Saturday, July 1, 2017)

"We’ve been taught to watch for and take advantage of opportunities that show up in our lives. Whether a good buy, a new interesting friend, chance to get away, another job contract, investment offer – all these situations signal to us to explore them and see how they can help us out in a positive way. Sometimes these events occur rarely sometimes in multiples. When the latter happens, there’s an urge to grasp at everything lest we “lose…
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Kita’s Gentle Message: The Love in Your Eyes (Saturday, June 24, 2017)

“It won’t be the brand new textbooks or latest app, Michael Jordan’s running shoes or McCourt’s hockey sweater, an all-inclusive week’s stay in the Bahamas, or front row seats on Broadway, a killer play list, shopping spree on Rodeo Drive, a 5-star dining experience in Paris, an Oscar awards after-party, or winning the lottery, – although these things are very nice, it will be the love in your eyes that will make the difference in someone’s…

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Kita’s Gentle Message: You Just Never Know (Sunday, June 18, 2017)

“You just never know when a “sure” thing is not any longer; when the person you thought of as invincible is no longer; when throwing the ball that far is no longer; when doing two parties back-to-back is no longer; when remembering every phone number is no longer; when the neighbour who always looks after your house when you’re gone is no longer; when your favourite shampoo on the shelf is no longer; when the house you called home is no longer; when the most liked…

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Kita’s Gentle Message: Don’t Rush to Fill Your Space (Saturday, June 10, 2017)

The project is finished; the meeting over sooner than you anticipated. An unannounced block of free time – an empty space - has suddenly come upon you and for a moment you are stunned.  After all, this does not happen very often in your 24/7 world that’s filled to the brim with work, errands, to-do-lists, emergencies – life itself. Shall you occupy it immediately by rushing to get tomorrow’s groceries today? Starting Friday’s report?  Stopping at the bank? Washing…

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Kita’s Gentle Message: We Don’t Know What We Don’t Know (Saturday, June 3, 2017)

In these erratic times where situations, people, and the environment around you have become so changeable and unpredictable, the mind strives to identify, assess and draw logical conclusions… and as you’ve realized - to no avail. Reason however magnificent in its workings, is no match for the Divine unfolding that is taking place.  Observing from a macro level may be helpful but even this objective stance falls short of understanding the nature of the Cosmos.…

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Kita’s Gentle Message: Jumping to Conclusions (Saturday, May 27, 2017)

“He didn’t call because it’s not important to him…I’m not important to him.” (Keep the issue where it belongs.) “The bus driver saw me but she still closed the door on me.” (Could it be she didn’t see you?) “How many times have I asked you to pick up the milk? I swear I’ll be happy when hockey season is over.” (Milk will be overlooked if it’s a series final in any sport.) “He knew I didn’t like that restaurant but he made reservations there anyway.” (Every other…

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Kita’s Gentle Message: Receiving Love Not as Easy as You Think (Saturday, May 20, 2017)

One would think that receiving love would be welcome by everyone. What’s not to like about love and what it can do for you? Here’s where the obvious ends though. To receive love requires the awareness of recognizing and acknowledging it first. Parents demonstrate love for their children by caring and nurturing for them. Their kids are oblivious to the fact that they are receivers of this love until they are old enough to step beyond self-centredness and appreciate…

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Added by Kita Szpak on May 20, 2017 at 1:36pm — No Comments

Kita’s Gentle Message: When Something Simple just doesn’t Stick (Saturday, May 13, 2017)

This week has been busy handling the media outreach for a major festival in town. I don’t know if this has happened to you where you’re supposed to implement something straightforward but for whatever reasons, completion of the task eludes you. I’ve not been there to take the call; I can’t find the information online; I’ve lost the person’s phone number who can provide answers to me;  I’ve forgotten about the item even though I’ve written it down… and another work…

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Kita’s Gentle Message: Talk It Out (Saturday, May 6, 2017)

Don’t assume, take it for granted, conclude based on past history, chicken out, make assumptions, act on impulse, follow the letter of the law, do nothing, phone a friend, listen to your mother, avoid the issue, reason it out, drink to forget, get even, get high, consult the doctor, compare notes, get angry, complain about the situation, wonder how to resolve it,…simply get in touch and talk it out.  You’ll be surprised how this can solve many a…

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Kita’s Gentle Message: The Perfection of Imperfection (Saturday, April 29, 2017)

The image of a cracked pot popped into my head today and I immediately thought of Leonard Cohen’s lyrics, “Ring the bells that still can ring. Forget your perfect offering. There is a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in.” The latter may have a philosophical/religious source – such a wise observation.  You don’t have to be perfect; your imperfection is exactly the space that allows the Divine to work within you. What hope this thought gives…

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Kita’s Gentle Message: Are There Enough Smarties? (Saturday, April 22, 2017)

Two of my sons celebrate birthdays in April and since they’ve been old enough to know there’s a birthday cake on their special day, I’ve made them each a chocolate cake decorated with Smarties. Specifically, I spell out their name on top of the cake with each letter in the same colour of the candy, and then dress the rest of the cake with what Smarties are left. I now use two boxes instead of just one.  Every time I pour out the pieces I look to see if there’s…

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Kita’s Gentle Message: Stepping off the Path (Saturday, April 15, 2017)

You begin to feel it – no one else knows or even notices a change in your behaviour. But you know it.  The knowing within acts as a honing device telling you when what you’ve thought, said or done isn’t in alignment with what you believe about yourself.  The more you immerse yourself in purposeful living, the more frequently you’re called out.  “Why did you say this?” “Why did you do that?” This is not a punishment but Spirit’s way of keeping you on your path.  Be…

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Kita’s Gentle Message: It’s so Hard to be Good (Saturday, April 8, 2017)

The acts of violence around the world, the acts of unkindness close to home, and the mercurial disposition of our earth and weather make it so hard to be good these days.  The lack of certainty has prompted a “survival of the fittest” mentality where love, compassion, trust and patience have been elbowed out by the bullies of fear, anger, revenge and greed. This time of change and transition is pushing every button we possess, and I in my cloak of goodness am…

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Kita’s Gentle Message: Knowing You have to Move On (Saturday, April 1, 2017)

Logically, you can create a number of reasons for maintaining the status quo. Your mind - by default in its survival mode – will willingly prevent you from leaving the familiar to enter the unknown even if the familiar is uncomfortable for you. Not knowing terrifies the mind more than an existing situation that is unhealthy for you. However, deep inside you a small voice grows ever stronger and more insistent that change needs to happen. The conflict begins.  Who…

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Kita’s Gentle Message: What Motivates Other People… (Saturday, March 25, 2017)

What motivates other people may not be what is motivating you. This is a very clear and uncomplicated statement. Yet not taking this into consideration when accepting a job, making plans with a family member, deciding on a night out with your friends or even taking your dog for a walk can lead to disappointment, frustration and misunderstanding. What compels each of us to engage the way we do is unique to our personality, upbringing and belief system. There is no…

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Kita’s Gentle Message: The Truth can be Comfortable (Saturday, March 18, 2017)

We’re constantly being told to be careful what we say – that saying what you really think leaves yourself wide open. The words “vulnerable” “under scrutiny” “irresponsible” “naïve” “crazy” have all been used to describe someone who has stated their truth.  Logic has convinced us that speaking truth is even dangerous. But if you were to say what you truly think how refreshing, liberating that would be.  To be yourself despite all to the contrary.  Imagine how…

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